The following is the full Ask LSOP #13 question and answer, featured in the Little Shop of Pleasures March 2017 newsletter.
Dear LSOP Experts,
I have been going to the gynecologist a lot recently for an unrelated medical issue, and I am becoming somewhat worried about my growing attraction to the speculum part of my examinations! I always feel embarrassed about it, but I can't help but feel excited when the doctor starts prepping for the exam. I’m worried that there is something wrong with me, and that my doctor will get the wrong impression of me. I came across speculums in your online store and had to ask... what exactly is the draw for the women who buy them? Or is it just men living out their doctor fetishes?
-- Miss McSteamy
Dear Miss McSteamy,
Firstly, we wish you the best in recovering from your recent health issue.
Regarding your doctor, I wouldn't worry about them thinking badly of you, unless you are being disrespectful. It isn't uncommon for people to become physically aroused during examinations, whether it is because they are actually psychologically turned on and their body is following suit, or because of arousal non-concordance (this video explains the concept), which is a fancy term for your body misreading brain signals and telling your genitals that you're turned on when you're really not. Doctors know this, and if your physician even notices that your physically aroused-which is honestly pretty unlikely- they've probably seen all kinds of things, and won't think less of you. But keep in mind that the doctor hasn't consented to participating in a sexual encounter with you, so any behavior that disrespects the implicit boundaries of the doctor/patient relationship is a big hell no.
And no, there isn't something wrong with you. We have very little control over what turns us on- like I said, it could just be that your brain is confusing your nervousness for something else, and has established a pattern of misfired physical arousal, like a kid who gets an erection every time they get called to the front of the class. Or it could be that something about the tools or the exam itself triggers a latent sexual memory, or just feels physically stimulating. Or it could be a mix of any number of factors. If you were turned on by running on the freeway, or some other dangerous and/or illegal thing, it would be cause for some concern, but being turned on by speculums/pelvic exams is pretty harmless, and common enough that sex stores sell speculums.
There isn't a distinct gender divide when it comes to speculum purchases at LSOP. While people don't usually tell us what they plan to do with their purchases, we know that people will use vaginal or anal speculums in a sexual context for a lot of reasons. Sometimes they want to just explore themselves more, others like the feeling of stretching. They can also be used for deep application of lube. Speculums can be a way of indulging a doctor, nurse, or medical fetish. A big draw for some people that use speculums is the feelings of vulnerability or even embarassment that can be created by allowing their partner to see or interact with their vagina or anus when using the speculum. There are lots of other reasons a person would want to own a speculum and all of them just as valid as the next.
I want to assure you that what you're feeling is perfectly normal, and that this might be a great place for you to start exploring a fetish you didn't know you had. If you have any more questions or want to pick up some literature about exploring medical play or speculums, feel free to drop by one of the LSOP locations to chat with one of our pleasure experts.
Thanks for writing in!
-- The LSOP Experts
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